My ADHD Child Is Ruining My Life: A Christian Mom’s Story of Hope

Introduction

I agreed with God and myself that I would never say it out loud—but there were days I truly felt like my ADHD child is ruining my life. It’s a heavy sentence, right? But if you’ve clicked on this blog, maybe you’ve whispered it too—through tears, clenched fists, or behind the locked bathroom door trying to breathe.

This post is for you, sweet mama. If you’re feeling overwhelmed with your ADHD child… if you’re losing your temper with your ADHD child more than you’d like… if you’re watching your marriage strain or your home feel like a battlefield, and you’re thinking “my son is destroying our family,” please know this: you are not alone.

And there is hope!

In this blog, I walk you through my personal story as a Christian mom raising a beautiful, high-energy ADHD son. And how I went from feeling hopeless to finding joy again.

We’ll talk about real struggles, Scripture-based encouragement, and the turning points that brought light back into our lives.

When You Whisper, “My ADHD Child Is Ruining My Life”

I remember the exact moment I thought it.

We were deep in the chaos. The school had just called (again!) about his behavior. He’d hit another child. He wasn’t sitting still. He was talking non-stop and interrupting the teacher.

By that time, I had already lived through multiple rejections and school informally seemed to be pushing him out. Playdates were stressful.

I was tired, lonely, and drowning in mom-guilt.

I wanted to be a good, gentle, joyful mom—but honestly? That time, my ADHD child annoys me, and the guilt of feeling that way made me cry even harder. 

Through prayer and submitting my cares to God, I realized my child didn’t do anything to ruin anything. It was all in my head. I was stressed. I was worn out. I didn’t see him the way God saw Him (and had created him). 

If there was any ‘ruining,’ it was me myself; the way I saw things.  

That insight gave me hope. It meant I could change the way I felt and observed situations. It also helped me not to be losing temper with ADHD child. 

God Sees You, Even When You Feel Like You’re Drowning

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It’s easy to feel invisible when your days are full of tantrums, noise, and meltdowns. Your friends don’t understand. Your family might say, “he’ll grow out of it or he just needs discipline.”

You wonder if you’re the problem.

But sister, God sees you. 

And… you are NOT the problem!!!!!!!!!!!!

Psalm 56 verse 8 (NLT) says, 

“You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book”

Every exhausted bedtime.

Every tear you’ve cried into your pillow.

Every time you held your tongue when you wanted to scream.

God has seen it all. And He’s not disappointed in you.

He’s walking with you.

The Turning Point: From Despair to Hope

For me, the big shift came after we got an official diagnosis: ADHD. I didn’t want a label—I wanted help. And suddenly, everything started to make sense.

I wasn’t a bad mom. My son wasn’t a bad kid. We were just wired differently (by the same God!).

I began to devour everything I could about ADHD. I asked questions, read books, watched videos, and most importantly—I went back to Jesus.

I stopped asking why is this happening to me? and started asking Lord, help me see him the way You do.

That’s when healing began.

“Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you” Isaiah 41:10 (NIV).

And that is when I started praying for my ADHD child. 

Hope for When I Felt Like My ADHD Child Was Ruining My Life

If you’re in that place now—where my ADHD child is ruining my life feels like your reality—here are a few things that brought hope back into my days:

• Learning to pause before reacting. I realized I was losing my temper with my ADHD child, not because I lacked love, but because I lacked tools. Once I started regulating my own emotions, he calmed down faster.
  
• Speaking life, not labels. Instead of calling him “aggressive” or “wild,” I started noticing how caring he was with younger kids, how he danced like David, how he led worship boldly. It changed how I saw him—and how he saw himself.
  
• Letting go of what others think. Not everyone will understand your journey, and that’s okay. Your child was given to you, not them.
  
• Leaning into Scripture and prayer, even if it’s messy. Some days, my prayers were nothing more than whispering, “help me, Lord” between meltdowns. But God heard me.
  

Even when you feel overwhelmed with ADHD child parenting journey-God is with you. 

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” Matthew 11:28 (ESV).

God Didn’t Make a Mistake With You or Your Child

Listen to me, mama: you were chosen for this child.

And your child, even with the impulsivity, the restlessness, and the quirks, was handcrafted by God.

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well” Psalm 139:14 (NIV).

I see this truth every day in my son. He’s a passionate worshipper. He dances before the Lord. He leads. He hugs fiercely. He notices things others don’t. His brain might not fit the traditional mold—but it fits God’s divine design.

And that’s the thing. Who says what a normal brain is? Who decides what’s neuro-typical or neuro-divergent? Aren’t we all created by the same wonderful God? 

Maybe you’re thinking, my teenager is ruining my life or my son is destroying our family. I get it. I’ve felt the strain ADHD can put on every relationship in the house. But I promise you—God can bring restoration, even here.

In my opinion, the ADHD brain isn’t neuro-divergent. It is just one of the wonderful ways God creates human beings. The issue is that we live in a so-called neuro-typical world. Everything is built and designed for neuro-typical brains. 

Knowing this, can help you not to feel overwhelmed with ADHD child.  

Takeaway: When It Feels Like “My ADHD Child Is Ruining My Life,” 

Remember this…. that thought—my ADHD child is ruining my life—isn’t a shameful secret. It’s a cry for help.

And help is here. In Jesus. In support. In wisdom. In community.

You don’t have to carry this burden alone. You are not failing. You are not forgotten. And this hard, holy work you’re doing matters more than you can imagine.

So today, take a deep breath. Speak grace over yourself. Whisper a prayer—even a short one—and know that your story is still being written. And the Author? He is faithful.

“Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful” Hebrews 10:23 (NIV).

You’ve got this, mama. And even when you don’t—God’s got you.

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